Practice Emotional Resilience for a Better Horse Ride

always time to pause breathe and ground yourself. 
Step 3 Take responsibility for your experience and change the story of whats happening to you. If you are feeling overwhelmed by negative emotion you are focusing on the possible threats of the situation instead of on the possible opportunities. This is a disaster. I look like a complete beginner. Everyone is judging me right now and thinking I cant ride my horse. All these thoughts trigger fear of failure and fear of judgement. By shifting our focus to curiosity about the opportunities we might find different thoughts. This is a challenge but I can manage challenges. This is a great opportunity to figure out how to connect with my horse when he is stressed. I am in the perfect place to get help and support with this. 
Choosing a different focus produces new thinking which helps us interpret our situation in a new light. Changing our interpretation means our brain can then make a different guess as to what the appropriate response is. We might feel curious instead of frustrated grateful instead of fearful or determined instead of overwhelmed. 
Helpful thoughts
The way I manage challenges is what makes me a good rider.
I am safe.
I dont need to be perfect I just need to be willing to learn. 
These three reflections support you to separate yourself from the experience you are having. Its about reframing I am struggling right now and having a difficult ride so that means Im not a good rider to I am a good rider having a difficult ride. I am okay despite this challenging situation because I know I have the skill and resourcefulness to solve this problem. 
Try this challenge The next time you ride practice emotional resilience by choosing the feelings thoughts and actions that help you perform at your best. When things get difficult pause and reframe your experience. Choose to remind yourself that you are a good rider having a difficult moment. Look for the opportunity instead of the threat. Choose calmness happiness and curiosity as much as possible and notice the positive ways they impact your ride.