Improve Your Comeback Potential

stop and berate yourself. For Jill this was crucial to her transformation into a comeback rider.
I had to learn not to take myself and everything that happened so seriously. It was as if every bad thing that happened I magnified in my head tenfold. Then I was so busy moaning about how bad everything was I actually just forgot to ride. I forgot to fix things she said.
The real truth about mistakes is that they will inevitably happen. Sometimes you will need their assistance to further your learning. Sometimes you will want to and need to let go of them as fast as smelly garbage. Observe one of the most resilient riders you admire and watch the way they handle their errors yes they do make them. Watch the way they handle frustration disappointment and losing.
You may have heard the expression practice makes perfect. You may have also heard this clarified to perfect practice makes perfect. In other words you have to watch carefully what it is that you practice every day because you may well be training yourself to do the wrong thing. You may be putting in hours of sweatinducing mindbending practice but if its not correctly targeted your efforts will be for naught.
Jill discovered that she was guilty of this. She practiced she practiced a lot. However she was an unfortunate master of rehearsing the wrong things. For example every time her horse challenged her authority she would get angry with herself and simply stop riding. This would create more horserelated problems that spun out of control. She was teaching herself that she could not take charge or claim leadership over and over. She was teaching herself to quit again and again.
So Jill decided to try a new practice. Every time she felt challenged by her horse she took a huge breath let it out and said to herself step up. To her this meant step up and be a leader even if you make a mistake. It took some time but she began to go through the tough times instead of slinking away from them and because of that her confidence grew.
So the first step in deliberate practice is to come up with a process. When things happen that you dont like that frustrate you and turn your brain to negative mush how will you cope?
The best first step is to find a way to pause